Behind the Facade: Hidden Truths & Intimacy

Behind the Facade: Hidden Truths & Intimacy

Untold truths. Hidden realty. Invisible lies. All of these have to do with perception. How you view others based on time spent with them.

Picture this: You meet someone. They seem perfect. Well, we all know that there is no such thing as perfect, but they are perfect for you. Ya’ll hang out, talk for hours. When you hug, it feels like the weight of the world is lifted. You talk about your deepest thoughts and fears. You begin to open up and feel safe. This is where intimacy begins.

The only thing you want is honesty. A relationship that stands on honesty and respect.  What happens when you feel that bond broken? Do you look for closure? What will having that closure do for you?

One thing about life is that we can’t forever hide the truth about ourselves, from ourselves. The real truth about a person always comes out. Even if the untold truth lies within you.

How does untold truths affect intimacy? Whew… This is packed. How can you be intimate with someone again that has taken the mask off? Me, personally, I am sapiosexual and demisexual. Sapiosexual is basically being attracted to someone’s intelligence. Demisexual is having sexual feelings ONLY AFTER developing a close emotional relationship that isn’t based on physical appearance, first impression, etc.…

Again, these are MY opinions. Once the mask is off, I feel betrayed. Betrayal trauma is real. It is the emotional impact a person experiences after their trust or well-being is violated.  This happens more often than not. Once violated, the feelings begin to dissipate. Remember, I’m a demisexual. If the emotions leave, the sex drive also leaves.  Everyone may not be able to resonate with this blog. But, for those that do, how do cope after someone shows themselves? It isn’t just in intimate relationships, but in all relationships and friendships.  

I have so many questions. Why people don’t feel as if they can’t be themselves. Live in their truth. It may not be ideal, but it will fit in with who it needs to fit in with. Relationships will never work if you pretend to be someone other than who you are. I am not saying don’t change. Always strive to be the best version of yourself. Work on yourself. Meditate. BUT DON’T PUT ON A MASK AND BE SOMEONE YOU ARE NOT!! If you do that, you have already lost yourself. And if you are with someone and they break their honesty, sit and think about how that will affect you.

At the end of the day, do what is best for you. These blogs are truly my opinion and thoughts. I would love to hear feedback.  Go to the “contact me” section and shoot me a message.

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